Tea Time

I can't believe we're this close.

Only 38 days until Ashley and Daniel tie the knot!  Up to this point it's just been a lot of talk, but last Saturday, things really began to kick into gear.  We celebrated with a beautiful bridal shower tea and I could start to feel the excitement.

Here I am with the bride-to-be and her sweet sister Rachel who worked so hard to help make this day special.

The day was a bit chilly and overcast (by Orange County standards anyway) but it was a perfect day for an outdoor tea.  The event was held in my sister Kathy's backyard.  What a beautiful spot for friends and family to gather!

Since this was a tea and we are ladies, after all, we just nibbled lightly on a few little treats.  Those Frenn girls discovered Devonshire cream and we fought over every last drop!

This was our dainty menu for the afternoon

• ice tea
• a variety of hot teas
• cinnamon scones
• blueberry scones
• chocolate chip scones
• raisin scones
• Devonshire cream (to smother the scones)

(no, we're not done yet)

• lemon mini tarts with berries
• chocolate mini tarts with whipped cream
• cucumber dill sandwiches
• aram sandwiches
• peanut butter and jelly sandwiches
• egg salad sandwiches

(we're almost finished!)

• fresh veggies and dip (for the health conscious)
• fresh fruit
• cream puffs
• strawberry shortcake
• chocolate dipped strawberries

Wow!

All of this food was made by this small team of ladies - Grandma, Aunt Kathy, Natalie (maid of honor) and Rachel (bridesmaid).  They worked tirelessly baking scones and tarts, washing and cutting fruits and veggies, polishing china cups and making everything look lovely for the occasion!

All of this for me!

After stuffing ourselves with all of the delicious food, we rolled ourselves over to watch Ashley open gifts.

There was gift after gift of beautiful and practical items for the home that she will share with Daniel.  (Note to self - buy stock in Crate & Barrel and Target!)

Younger brother Sam sent a gift to the shower but I think he was confused as to what type of shower this was.  Is that what you call a 'subtle hint'?  There were also a few little (ahem) personal items thrown in for good measure. 

Overall, the day was a great success.  Ashley had a smile from ear to ear.

Ashley's cousin (and my sweet niece) Veronica just announced her engagement so it appears as though we will be in 'wedding mode' for some time yet.  Congratulations Veronica and Sam!

Thanks to everyone who helped us celebrate and showered Ashley and Daniel with love, gifts and good wishes.

38 days and counting!

Blessed

The year 2010 was lousy.  One more year at the end of a string of rotten years.  We were glad to wave goodbye and step into 2011. 

Well, so far 2011 is turning out to be a difficult year as well.  I won't call it rotten yet, because this year still has 9 months left to redeem itself.  Since this year began, my mom, Ashley and Steve have all had surgery and Rachel has been nursing a bad sprain.  It's only March, but I can safely say I have no desire to see the inside of a doctor's office or hospital ever again!

It's easy right now, to feel a wee bit sorry for us.  Nobody likes illness and pain affecting the people that they love.  It's exhausting and disheartening.  But every time I feel like I'm due for a full-blown pity party, I think of Japan, Libya, Syria, Afghanistan and the beautiful people around the world who live in situations beyond my imagination, clinging to a shred of hope.

I'm choosing to step away from the pity party and be reminded of my blessings.  Here are just a few, in no particular order.

• I can worship God with fellow believers without fear of reprisal.

• Sam always knows how to make me laugh.

• I was raised in a loving, godly home.

• I have a home that is safe, warm and whole.  

• Ashley will be marrying Daniel, the love of her life, in 14 weeks. 

• I have a car that gets me where I need to go.

• I am not dealing with the threat of radiation.

• I have an incredible, supportive network of friends and family.

• Rachel plays the piano every day, filling our home with worship music.

• I do not live in fear of violence.

• My daily commute to work is from the coffee maker in my kitchen to my computer.

• Steve and I will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary this year.

• I don't worry about my children going hungry.

• We have health insurance and Steve received the surgery he so desperately needed.

• The sun is shining today and the jasmine is blooming.

I realize now that there is an unending list of things to be grateful for.  We have been blessed beyond measure and certainly beyond what we deserve.

I have a choice now, I can live snug and warm and secure without a thought for others, or think of ways that I can reach beyond me and extend blessing to those in need.  To be honest, I'm not always sure how to do this.  The needs seem so overwhelming that sometimes I'm left doing nothing. 

I don't want to be a nothing-doer but someone who is generous and compassionate.  I choose to start today.

If you feel like life is dumping on you, try this exercise and look beyond yourself.  Tell me, what are you grateful for today?  How do you share with those who are in need?

To-Do Lists

Last week I was real busy.  I finally got around to cleaning off the back patio.  It was piled with junk - boxes, old furniture, dried leaves, etc.  I discarded the junk, swept it clean and stacked what was remaining. 

Next, I tackled my garage.  Same thing in there - got rid of some trash, organized what was left (still a lot of stuff, I'm afraid) and swept the floor clean.

I went through the house and dealt with a lot of small DIY projects that I've been putting off for a while.  You know the ones - switchplate covers that never got back on,  wobbly screws in the bathroom hooks, even a couple buttons sewed on some clothes that were in a pile in the corner of my room.

I even tackled my son's room!  His bedroom got the once-over, more like the twice-over, that it's been needing for quite some time now.  Every Nerf bullet, LEGO piece, Star Wars figure and video game cable is in it's appropriate bin.

It was a productive week.  Of course, as in any household, the items on the to-do list seem to grow faster than I can check them off, but overall, I was pretty satisfied with what I accomplished.  Except for one small thing...

My busyness has been avoidance.  I've been keeping myself busy to avoid what I really felt I should be doing.

Have you ever done this before, or is it just me? 

Every day, when I wake up, I have this nagging feeling (conscience?) of what I really should be dealing with,  what I really ought to be doing.  The only way to really quiet my conscience is to get busy.  So... my house got cleaned in the process. 

I've been arguing with myself that my cleaning frenzy is way better than drowning that voice with a bottle of whiskey, a dozen donuts or just being plain old lazy - after all, look at what I accomplished.  I'm getting things done (picture a pat-on-the-back here)!

So, day after day, I have been pushing my 'should-do' list further and further back in my mind and replacing it with the trivial 'to-dos'.  Every time I accomplished something else, or I would hear someone say,  "The house looks great!" that little voice would get a bit quieter.

Until today.

Tonight is my ladies book club night and we're ready Crazy Love by Francis Chan.  So far the book has been good and I've enjoyed it, but today I read Chapter 4.  It's a powerful chapter entitled "Profile of the Lukewarm".  The whole chapter is challenging but one small sentence hit me like a brick.

"Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins"
James 4:17

This is how it reads in the New International Version,

"If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them."

 Ow!

I'm still reeling.  I'm sure there is a large lump forming right between my eyes where that brick hit.  This is how that verse reads in Karen's Abridged Version (KAV), "If Karen knows the good she should do and doesn't do it,  it is sin for Karen." 

This has nothing to do with you or anyone else.  I can't rank myself on a scale of goodness and feel proud of how good I am 'compared to' anyone else.  I know what I should be doing.  I'm not doing it.  It is sin for me.

I really wish I hadn't read Chapter 4 - of Crazy Love or of James.  They both annoyed me and hurt my feelings at first.  They made me uncomfortable and made me stop and think.  Arrrggh!  I'm too busy to be uncomfortable or to be thinking this hard!

I still have a dishwasher to unload and reload, clothes to wash, toilets to clean, weeds to pull...you get the picture.

But, I did read them both.  So,  now I have a choice.  I can continue to ignore "the good I ought to do" or get cracking and start living the life I am meant to live.

This is the weird part - there are days that "the good I ought to do" is cleaning toilets and doing laundry.  It is a vital part of my life and crucial to keeping this family running.  But there are days when those things are fillers, days that I need to let the dishes sit in the sink, or ignore the laundry and attend to those things that are more important. 

Today, I felt like this post was on my list of things I should be doing.  It is hard being vulnerable and revealing myself and my flaws on a regular basis but today I'm getting to the nitty-gritty.  Most of the things on my critical 'should-do' list are personal, between me and God. 

I know he loves me in spite of my sin, but I want to show him how much I love him by obeying him and listening to his voice, not ignoring it and filling my days with my own agenda.  So, this post is dedicated to the One I love.

"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment."
(Matt. 22:37-38)